Not doing too good!

[Cr33p3r]

I have been kinda keeping to my self lately for the most part, but I am at a point I just need to let things out. My dad was in the hospital for 8 days and sent home a week ago only to be taken back in by ambulance from his doctors office on Monday. I am so sick of these doctors that just want to push pills or experiment with people to see how there bodies react! That was the case of the dipshit doctor in the ER. Only thing he did right was admit my dad to the hospital which this time around he actually has a good doctor that researched my dad's history since 2006 to present. She (doctor) was upset that my dad has not been able to get these thigns taken care and the other doctors were ***** footin around it.
Dads diabetes has changed from Type 2 to Type 1 and causing alot of health problems i.e. pancreas, gull bladder, kidneys, and intestines. His doctor wants to do more but the other specialist are fighting her on it all.
Anyhow onto the other part of this is mom was rushed into the ER on Wedsnday for possible heart attack, I don't know for sure as my sister never did tell me, rather she wanted to read me the riot act for not being home to answer my phone and to also tell me that mom does not want me to see her or tell my dad that she is in the same hospital. My sister is blaming me for moms ordeal. There is a lot of unanswered questions I have and no one to ask at the moment since I am stuck here at work.
I am just totally exhuasted both pysically and mentally with all of it and ready to just leave this state for good and not look back ever.
Well I do apoligize for throwing my troubles out there but it helped just to type it out.

[Brody]

Wow, Sean.

Things can certainly turn to crap in a heartbeat! I am sorry to hear that your dad isn't doing too well. I know that he had heath issues. I hope that his current doctor is going to get things taken care of. Osrry to hear about your mom, too. I would see or call here no matter what my lame sister said or wanted me to do. I have a sister like that.

[glacierpaul]

Keep Positive! I can sort of relate, about doctors. I have long since dubbed them "licensed drug dealers". Not cool when diagnosis is different Dr. to Dr. Then it is like, which of you do I trust, and the real deal, who is right? Siblings can also add to the mix, creating a rough, if not intolerable situation.
For me, my problems are my mom and dad, luckily my siblings are all half bros/sis, and I am 12+ years their senior. My best wishes to you, Sean. Take a drive in the mountains, in some nice cool fresh air, take some time for you! You need to be in the right frame of mind, to be of support, and to take flack from sis.
No need for apology, hopefully your friends here can provide you some relief, you vented and that is half of getting thru it.
Paul

[RockyMtnHigh]

Sorry to hear Sean, hope your mom and dad improve!

[Brad]

Really sorry to hear Sean. Hoping things improve. I agree you need to get out for some air and a walk. Always helps me focus.

[Java]

sorry to hear that, sorry you're having such a tough time with things. hang in there, everything is always changing.

[Chris]

Sorry to hear this Sean, it's hard when family and doctors are at odds with each other. The approach that I found worked best was to be very involved, talk to the docs, ask questions, demand answers and don't listen to your siblings. Do what you think is best and fight for what you think is right. I had many ocassions to question doctors when my mother was alive and always took the approach that they were working for me, not unquestionable authorities. I told doctors not to run certain tests because they're uncalled for and didn't make a lot of friends with them in the process but my mother got the care she needed. Blow off your sister but not your parents, walking away would provide temporary relief but would probably come back and kick you in the ass.

Heading to the hills may provide some breathing room to get a fresh perspective but dealing with reality head on worked for me more effectively. Be direct, be persistent and you'll find some level of satisfaction. Hang in there and remember that you need to be on top of your game to help your family. Don't let the stress beat ypu down.

[4Runninfun]

Very sorry to hear this Sean. I'll echo what other have said forget what your sister said, and make sure you're as involved with both of your parents recoveries as possible. Best of luck!

[Aaron]

That stinks! Let me know if there is anything I can do for you.

[Heather]

Sorry to hear what you're dealing with, Sean. I hope things get better soon. To have family drama on top of sick folks is pretty hard to deal with. Wishing you the best.

[Rob]

Damn, that's a lot to deal with all at once. Sounds like Chris has good advice.

[Michael4rnr]

Good luck and stay positive.

[Pathrat]

Sorry to hear this Sean. Listen to Chris, he knows what he is talking about.

[Coonburger]

sorry to hear that i feel yea on the sick parents thing its really hard let me know if i can do anything for ya , even its just a case of beer and a ear

[Brody]

Nicely said, Chris.

Yeah, and walking away from your problems still leaves the shitty little problems there. Not the best thing to do and doesn't solve a damn thing.

[Jackie]

Sean - so sorry you're going through this and I wish you and your family the best.

Chris said it best. Everything he said is good advise. The only thing I could add to that would be don't be afraid to reach out to us here if we can do anything to help you.

[Cr33p3r]

Thank you all, there was a lot of good advice given and I did take it too. Val called the hospital for me and handed me the phone. I spoke with my mom and found out that she was actually ok, it was a false alarm on the heart attack, turned out to be her acid reflux acted up really bad and gave the same symptoms of a heart attack. As for dad, he had a MRCP (I think that what it is called) Friday night and it shows exactly what the (good) doctor has been saying from the start, His Gall bladder is inflamed and has gall stones as well as the Liver, Pancreas, Kidneys, and intestines being inflamed. So he will be under going surgery sometime today to have the gall bladder removed and exploratory with the rest of it.

As for my younger sister she had been dialing the wrong # all day and thought I was ignoring her! She called again when she knew I was up getting ready for work and went off on me for her mistake, well she apologised at the hospital and then lost it again. Well I see it as it is her mistakes and she needs to own upto them rather than blame me, even if she was only getting 3hrs sleep during all this (WELCOME TO MY WORLD). Anyhow maybe one day she will come around but I am not going to be stewing over it.

The part about leaving is always a thought for me and yes I do know the problems it would cause but after a lot of bad stuff happening here in Colorado, and there getting to be way too many people anymore I really do want out but it has to wait until I am retired.

THANK YOU AGAIN EVERYONE!!! It is always good to know you there are people you can turn too!

Sean

[glacierpaul]

My best to your dad, on the ongoing issues! Glad your mom is ok, and sis, well she is your sis :).

[Brody]

X2 what Paul said.

[Newb Tourist]

Man that is terrible - hope everything works out somehow!

[Hypoid]

Thanks for the update, Sean.

[Cr33p3r]

Well dad got to go home Tuesday and is doing ok, he has to go in to get a scope down his throat to have his Pancreas and stuff checked out. Got informed that, thanks to the DIPSTICK running our fine country that we maybe out of a job in the next 6 months to a year. With all the changes and equipment upgrades going on at work all the pieces are adding up to backing this whole thing. Not sure what to do if it happens may have a couple of choices 1) early retirement but I will be penalized 20% on top of loosing 10% for shift differential and Sunday premium so that is a total of 30% right off the top, 2) the option or transferring is gone since Mr. Dipstick put a 5 year freeze on government hiring 3) possibly go to work for the contractors that get our jobs, heck they are already weaseling their way into the positions now and just because the higher ups want to just hand everything over to them! Well on a good note I do go in this morning for a 4 hour procedure and have a in depth CT of my lungs done to find out how much asbestos I have in there.

[Wind Dancer]

Reading all that is occurring in your world, mine are nothing, I only thought I have problems. :confused: I hope all works well for you and all the twist and turns that are no doubt upon you, the positive energy forces of this vast universe will be with you.

[glacierpaul]

When do you get results from the CT scan? Asbestos, great stuff, till it started killing us off.....brings up another health hazard, CFL bulbs, let's save the environment by using mercury based lighting instead of incandescent bulbs......

hoping for the best for you, 1freaky1

[Cr33p3r]

Thank you Paul and Callie for the positive thoughts and wishes! The results will take a week to get back and so will the extra copy of the scans and hopefully the results with them will be mailed to me. I figured it would be best if I had a personal copy for my records just in case I need to consult an attorney. Funny how the better ideas are not always the best for us, the planet, animals, water, air, and lets not forget space too. Another one besides the CFL lights is the balusters from the fluorescent lights causing cancer due to them having PCBs in them, now that is one that seems to have died out in the last couple years. Well over all I have to try and stay positive with all of it, no since crying over it since the damages are done just try to pick up the pieces and move on!!!